How To Recognize Red Flags

As a service provider, one must know that sometimes coercive control is invisible and can be easily missed. It is important to probe further and ask questions to understand if coercive control is present.

Red flags are warning signs or indicators that suggest coercive control might be occurring. Pay attention to certain statements like “I think I am going crazy”, “I feel stuck” or “I feel as if I am in a cage”. Ask them to compare their relationship in the initial phases versus how it is now. Here are some probing questions you can ask to see if your client is experiencing coercive control:

Probing Questions:

• Have you noticed your partner making decisions for you without your input or consent?
• How often do you communicate with friends and family? Are there any restrictions?
• Do you have access to your passport or immigration documents at all times?
• Do you have the flexibility and autonomy to manage your daily schedule?
• Does your partner frequently humiliate you, belittle you, or call you names in front of others?
• Does your partner control your social media accounts or passwords? Are you free to post as you wish?
• Does your partner prevent you from having private conversations or make you feel anxious about talking to others?
• Are you free to work or pursue education?
• How are the finances managed in the household?
• Do you have your own bank account, and can you access it independently?
• Are you able to spend your money as you wish?
• Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells to avoid upsetting your partner?

These questions can help you identify if your client is experiencing coercive control and provide a clearer picture of their situation.